New Blog for Nathanael

We recently started fundraising with COTA to cover Nathanael's medical expenses, so updates about him will be on his new blog from now on: www.COTAforNathanaelB.com. Please check out the blog, pictures, and opportunities to help, and feel free to pass along the link to others. We appreciate your concern!

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Merry Christmas 2010

Merry Christmas from the Banks family!

We pray that you rejoice with us as we celebrate God's goodness in so many ways. Our hope in Christ has given us strength to get through a challenging year following Nathanael's cord blood transplant last fall. We feel blessed to have two precious boys in our lives, one healthy and the other moving towards health, as we finally share our first Christmas together as a family! May you and your family know His love in this season and in the coming year.

Brad, Bree, Jamison & Nathanael

Photo captions:


Jamison, at 3.5 years old, loves his role as big brother

Nathanael at 14 months, after the removal of his central lines

Caption from the family picture:

Transplant = $750,000

Homes in 2 states = $25,000

Being together = PRICELESS




Sunday, December 19, 2010

Birth Announcement (a year late!)

So now that our precious little boy is 16 months old I'm finally sending out birth announcements! I'm also posting it here and on FB. Hope you enjoy the beautiful pictures by Kay McIntire of KM Digital Images. More of her work can be seen here:

http://kmdigitalimages.com/

I also realized that Friday, December 17 was exactly one year after Nathanael was discharged from the hospital (after more than 5 weeks inpatient for transplant) - what a great day!

Just in case the text is hard to read, it says:
Share in our joy as we welcome
Nathanael Zachary
August 19, 2009
8 lbs, 7 oz, 20 inches
Brad, Bree & Jamison Banks
"When Jesus saw Nathanael approaching, He said of him, "Behold, a true Israelite in whom there is no deceit." - John 1:47

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Our friend Jackson

We are so thankful for some friends who were introduced to us shortly after Nathanael's birth. Their son, Jackson, has a rare immune deficiency disease as well, and had a bone marrow transplant in March. Since we have kept the boys so isolated, our doctors (we see the same ones here in Dallas) agreed that having them play together would be fine, so in early November we set up a time for them to come over to play. (Of course, Nathanael was only a spectator...)




I was still pretty nervous that something would go wrong, that we'd share germs with Jackson and he'd get sick...so I steam cleaned the furniture and the floors, sanitized some toys, and prayed. Of course, as soon as the boys got comfortable playing with cars in the living room, off they ran to Jamison's (uncleaned) room full of (uncleaned) stuffed toys, and they both came back with lots of "furry friends" in their arms...I was horrified, and they had so much fun! The animals played games together, and eventually they were abandoned in favor of a pillow fight on our bed! We also played outside together. The boys were thrilled to play together, and Melissa and I were so thankful that despite their extended isolation, both boys had retained/learned enough to handle themselves appropriately. God's grace was clearly evident.

While I was worried about Jackson before he came over, I noticed that he washed his hands often, didn't put things in his mouth, and was great about only playing with Jamison. At 3 years old he's very verbal, and has an INCREDIBLE understanding of his condition, the "rules" (he wears a mask and hat when outdoors), so I understood why Melissa was comfortable with his being here...even playing with Jamison's toys. He is also farther along in his recovery than Nathanael, so that set my mind at ease as well. One of the challenges of Nathanael's age is that he doesn't "get it" and can't understand why things happen. Jackson showed us his central line and g-tube button, and told us that he got medicines through them...what a great attitude!

Of course, it was such a blessing to me to be able to talk with Melissa. She has an in-depth understanding of our situation and is incredibly compassionate. I love all of my friends, and am grateful for all of you who pray for us, but (thankfully) so few of our friends know what this road has been like, that it's a great comfort to share it with someone who also shares your faith, can laugh and cry with you, and can understand the unique challenges we've faced this year. We do hope to have both families together again soon.

It was such a great day all-around. Of course Nathanael was an observer of all the fun, both from his exersaucer and his booster seat, but that didn't bother him, and the benefit to the rest of us was well worthwhile.

Please pray for Jackson and his family, as he continues to recover from his transplant. We praise God with them for his continued good health, and look forward to lots more fun together!

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Out of the frying pan...

I wrote the title of this post almost a year ago, and I had no idea how true it would prove to be. At the time I had just been told by the nurse in charge of discharging transplant patients that we would be sent home before Christmas. (I've said it before, but it bears repeating that in the BMT world, NOTHING is certain until it actually happens...) Nevertheless, around that time we were planning to go "home" to the apartment in Cincinnati after almost 6 weeks in the hospital. It was scary for me, as I knew that I would become Nathanael's primary caregiver and would have to give IV meds, milk and meds via the NG tube, and would have to carefully watch him for any signs of illness or infection. It felt like an impossible task, and I even created a spreadsheet for myself to use as a reminder of everything we had to do (and so we could write it down so we didn't forget that we had done it!). I was glad that my mom was going to be with me, but I still had no idea that I'd learn to do so many things, and would become so comfortable with them.

What I had no idea about at the time was that it in a year we might possibly feel like we had made almost no progress. Well...it's not really true that we've made no progress, but it often FEELS that way, since we still live in isolation, we still give oral meds 3x daily, and we still obsessively wipe and clean anything that Nathanael is going to touch. It breaks my heart to hear Jamison tell me that he's sanitizing his hands (3x in 10 min the other day) to keep Nathanael from getting sick, but that's such a big part of his world...and I'm not sure how it can be any different right now. Yes, the central lines are gone, and we've stopped some meds, but then we added some to our home routine that used to be done at the hospital. And it feels like we're always on the brink of another inpatient stay. Ugh!

Several months ago Brad asked me if he thought we'd all be in church together for Christmas. I think I laughed at him. That wasn't very nice of me, but it seemed so unrealistic, and I couldn't even dare to hope for that. Now I think I'd just like to get to church together NEXT Christmas. Yes, we were told 1-2 years for the rebuilding of a healthy immune system, but we're ready to be done with this ordeal NOW. Out of the frying pan into the fire, indeed.

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Another Hospital Stay; Fun at Home

After about 10 weeks at home, Nathanael and I went back into the hospital on Monday. He had been showing signs of something not being right by mid-week, so it was no surprise to us that when he was seen in clinic on Monday they decided to admit him. He did also have his first fever in quite awhile during his check-up. Unfortunately because he no longer has any central lines, he quickly became a pincushion (although he didn't bruise nearly as easily as last month during his regular blood draws). He had blood drawn in clinic, then an IV was put in an hour or so later, then he had another draw on Tuesday morning, and an injection in each thigh on Wednesday (at least he didn't have labs drawn that morning, as everything had looked good the day before). He also had two days of heavy IV antibiotics, which is standard practice for BMT kids who spike a fever, and in his case, since we were convinced he had a UTI it was the best way to start treating it early.

However, his UA (urinalysis) was clear (showed no signs of infection), and NONE of the cultures they collected (urine, blood, stool, nose, armpit) were positive for ANYTHING. This is good news of course, as he has none of the viruses they test for, but it doesn't help us really know what's going on with him. Ugh. They suspect a mild GI bug, but he only vomits when something gags him (oral meds, feeding), and in our experience with Jamison, that's not the way it usually works.

So after staying in the hospital for just over 48 hours (including 2 nights with not much sleep for either of us) we were sent home. I'm thankful for that. We also had a nice evening with some friends on Wednesday who brought yummy dinner and then fixed our ailing garbage disposal - yay! They had expected to just spend time with Brad and Jamison, but it was fun for all of us, and Nathanael smiled at everyone, though he still looked pale and blotchy all over. We are now just trying to keep the little guy hydrated, rested, and getting all his medications so he can deal with whatever this is without being readmitted to the hospital.

The very good news is that despite this recent hospital stay, our medical teams have reevaluated his medication list, and have decided to stop two medications now, and may stop one more in a few weeks - YIPEE!!! That leaves us with 7-8 meds in the morning, 1 in the afternoon, and 6-7 in the evening - a BIG improvement. The one in question will be decided upon after more blood tests are done next week. If his mitogens and antigens look like they are responding more normally then we may be able to stop his antifungal med (voriconazole). His immunologist here has also ordered his T and B cell studies to be done next week, since his last test was in early October, and his steroid dose has dropped significantly since then, AND because we don't expect to go to Cincinnati for a check-up until March (we had expected to go in January, but we won't do that unless his condition worsens or is cause for concern). I hope that we'll see a major improvement since his steroids have been cut back, but we'll just have to wait for the results.

In other exciting news our little guy has learned to pull himself up to standing! This is a huge development for him, and though delayed, he is continually making progress. He can also sit himself back down, which is a good skill to have. :) I think he loves the view from above the crib or pack n play rail.

Jamison helped me decorate for Christmas this year, and we've had a lot of fun getting out the tree, ornaments, stockings, and even putting lights and bows on the shrubs out front. He is quite the little helper in so many ways, and even our tree bears the mark of a height-challenged lead decorator (75% of the ornaments are 2-3 feet from the bottom!). He also seems to have found a new favorite book for the seaon, "The Little Drummer Boy" (one of my childhood favorites). We even sang it while playing his drums the other day (thanks Uncle Jason for the cool South African drum!).

My almost-4-year-old (who regularly asks for things for his birthday - he seems to think it's next week, not in several months!) is starting to write his letters. I've included here a picture of him showing off the word 'pentaceratops' on his doodle-pad. He copies dinosaur names from the back of his puzzle pieces. I feel like I should be teaching him to write, but he's practically teaching himself!

Oh, and we did have a nice Thanksgiving together - just the four of us, but LOTS to be thankful for!

Saturday, November 20, 2010

One Year Check-up (in Dallas)


It hit me the other day that November 15 was our closest check-up to the one-year anniversary of Nathanael's cord blood transplant, so I asked Brad to take a picture of the two of us before we left for the hospital the other day. At this point our doctor in Cincinnati doesn't need to see us until after the first of the year, so we won't have a one-year check-up there. It was relatively uneventful, except that we discussed the weaning schedule for Nathanael's oral hydrocortisone. :) Barring any GvH flare-ups or other issues he should be off all steroids by the end of January. Yay!!!

I should also mention that this visit also substituted for a normal 15 month check-up, and I was a little discouraged that his weight is almost exactly 1 kilogram more than he weighed 12 months ago, at the time of his hospital admission. His current weight is about 8.2kg, and at just under 3 months of age he weighed 7.14kg. He has weighed as much as 9.5kg (while on IV fluids and lots of steriods), and we have seen fluctuations based on things like medications and teething patterns. The good news is that he has grown almost 2cm in the past month or so! He's now around 67cm long (around 27 inches). For now, the endocrinologists are not concerned about his growth, though he has "fallen off" the growth charts. We do expect to see quite a bit of growth once he is off steroids in the spring.

Please keep us in prayer during this RSV and flu season, that we would all stay healthy, and that Nathanael's immune system would continue to grow.

Tired little boys...tired parents

So here's how things were in our house the other day...but not a whole lot has changed. Some days we are just so wiped out! I thought you'd all enjoy some pictures - even tired ones! - of our precious little boys...however, Brad and I are less cute when we're tired, so you're going to have to take my word for it that we're tired too!